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AMONG THE ANIMAL CRACKERS: I Have Seen the Enemy, and I Ordered it with Extra Cheese





BOO-BOOS, GERMS & PAP SMEARS: Got Mammogram Anxiety? Try These Tips!




EVERYDAY GOOD EATING™: Easy Dinners, Minus the Costly Convenience Foods




REEL LIFE WITH JANE: Should you take the kids to see "Journey to the Center of the Earth?




BRINGING UP GEEKS: Pink is the New Black: When Parents Don't Parent






BUZZ ON THE BIRDS AND BEES:
Contemplating My Empty Nest




READ ‘EM AND REAP: Funny Pages: Poetry and Rhymes For Kids






PARENTING TOGETHER APART: 5 Ways to Prepare for Your Child's Summertime Visit to Your Ex





AMONG THE ANIMAL CRACKERS
One Mom's Adventure in the Dieting Jungle

I Have Seen the Enemy, and I Ordered it with Extra Cheese

by Mary Dixon Lebeau

Ah, food. Staff of life, source of energy, necessary for sustenance. From the family dinner table to the church pot luck, from the counters in our favorite diners to the elegant dining halls saved for special occasions, we Americans associate food with comfort, companionship, security, luxury - even love.

So how did this beautiful relationship turn so terribly terribly wrong?

A wise woman once told me that thin people eat differently than we of the pleasantly plump persuasion do. They only eat when they're hungry, and just enough to keep the pangs away. She cited the case of her husband, who had such natural restraint that he could open a three-pack of cream-filled TastyKakes and eat just one. He had no desire for the other two cupcakes, because his hunger had been satisfied.

Even though I was boggled at the thought of leaving two perfectly delicious snack cakes untouched (after all, they're not as good if they aren't fresh!), I could see her point. But then I thought of my own husband, who would have eaten all three cupcakes, chased it down with a cup of coffee and then asked, "Hey, did anyone else hear the ice cream truck?" Yet both men were slender. Obviously, something more was going on.

Scott has always been an extreme eater - and for the most part, that works for him. Whenever he finds the waistband of his jeans getting a little tight, he just bypasses the sausage part of his Denny's Grand Slam, and the weight melts off overnight.

I, on the other hand, can order scrambled egg whites and hand my bacon off to my kids for weeks, and still I'll have trouble buttoning that top button.

I think each of us has our own personal relationship with food - and, like it or not, our bodies are not reliable or consistent. What works for Scott would never ever work for me. Heck, what used to work for me doesn't work for me any more. We get older, our metabolisms change, and our lives - like it or not - become more sedentary. I mean, my bio tells you that I actually was too thin when I was younger. In high school (when I weighed approximately half of what I do now), I ate whatever I wanted. I also walked everywhere because I didn't get my driver's license until college, I played soccer, I rode my bike regularly, I swam on the swim team.

Now, I chase the kids around the backyard and consider it exercise. You can't make those kind of changes in your "moving" and not make similar adjustments in your "fueling." So if I move less, I have to eat less - and there have been days that I ate three meals and two snacks when a glass of water and a handful of raisins would have fueled the limited movement I did.

So that's where I'm starting - my personal ground zero, as it were. Some people eat for fuel, others for pleasure. I've done both - and I've eaten for pain, thinking I could fill up any hole inside of me with cupcakes and ice cream. But the hole doesn't fill up; it just becomes larger - and so does the rest of you.

I probably won't ever eat like a thin person, and I can't ever eat like Scott (or even younger Mary). But I can find a sensible plan of fueling and moving, so I can enjoy food AND my life.

Mary Dixon Lebeau was a skinny high school student, but seems to have been writing, parenting and dieting for several years now. Coincidence? You be the judge. She keeps her weight private (between her and her God) but is happy to share her writing, which has appeared in such publications as Parents, Parenting, The Christian Science Monitor, Family Circle and four different editions of the Chicken Soup for the Soul books. (No, she never could stop at one serving.) She'd be happy to share the kids, too, but the writing is much easier to take, trust us. Mary can be reached at marylebeau@comcast.net.


BOO-BOOS, GERMS & PAP SMEARS:
Health Tips for Your Family

Got Mammogram Anxiety? Try These Tips

by Kathy Sena

Fear of discomfort is one reason some women may choose not to undergo their recommended annual mammogram. Yet, there are a few simple things a woman can do to ease any possible discomfort she may feel during this important test, according to experts at Baylor Regional Medical Center in Plano, Texas:
  • Hold off on caffeine. Caffeine has a tendency to make a woman's breasts tender and lumpy, potentially making the mammogram uncomfortable. Avoid drinking coffee and tea, unless it's decaffeinated, for a week prior to a mammogram. Other items containing caffeine include diet drinks, chocolate and even some common over-the-counter (OTC) pain relievers. Be sure to read the label of any OTC medications before you take them prior to a scheduled mammogram.

  • Steer clear of perfumes, talcum powder, etc. Deodorant, talcum powder, perfumes and oils may leave a residue that can be picked up by the X-rays, obscuring the mammogram and possibly interfering with the results. Ultimately, this means a woman could need a second mammogram. Do not use these products on the day of the scheduled mammogram.

  • Check your calendar. "Most women's breasts are naturally more tender or slightly swollen during the week prior to their menstrual period," says Alicia Starr M.D., medical director at Baylor's Women's Imaging Center. "Try to avoid scheduling your annual mammogram during this time."

  • Dress for comfort. Wear a two-piece outfit with a blouse or sweater on the day of the appointment. While a woman's choice of outfit will not affect the outcome of her mammogram, most women find it easier and faster to slip off a blouse instead of removing a one-piece dress.
Mammography is a low-dose X-ray of the breast that is currently the most effective way of finding breast cancer in its earliest and most treatable stages. Any possible discomfort during a mammogram should not prevent women from scheduling this procedure. A female registered technologist takes the X-ray. These specialists are trained to position the breast and to set the machine to obtain the best possible image with the least possible discomfort. During the procedure, the woman's breast is placed on a ledge and gently compressed in order to see all the tissue and any possible abnormalities.

Doctors recommend a baseline mammogram between age 35 and 40 and yearly mammograms starting at age 40 (sometimes earlier if a woman has a family history of breast cancer). In addition to the annual mammogram, women should perform a monthly breast self-exam beginning at age 20, and a woman's physician should perform a clinical breast exam at least every three years up to age 40 and yearly after age 40.

In the U.S., more than 250,000 people are diagnosed with breast cancer every year. But if detected at an early stage, the chances of survival are extremely high.

Kathy Sena is an award-winning health and parenting writer and the mother of a 12-year-old son. Visit her website at KathySena.com and check out her blog, Parent Talk Today, at ParentTalkToday.com.




EVERYDAY GOOD EATING™
Tips and Solutions for Quick and Creative Meal-making from the Kitchen Queen™

Easy Dinners, Minus the Costly Convenience Foods

by Mary Collette Rogers

My last grocery bill got me thinking. There was a $2.49 line item for a box of instant brown rice. (I always keep a box on hand in case I forget or am unable to make my weekly pot of rice.) I ran some numbers to see just how much I pay for the privilege of convenience, compared to the organic brown rice I had also bought:

$2.49 buys me:
6 cups of cooked instant brown rice (enough for about 2 meals)
OR
20 cups of cooked regular and organic rice (enough for 6+ meals)

Pretty dramatic difference, and likely as not, the same ratio applies to most other packaged foods in the store. So why are convenience foods like this one flying off the shelves hen we’re all being squeezed by high grocery prices? Simple: because they’re so darn convenient! Who’s got time to cook from scratch?

There’s the rub. It would be nice to save some money at the grocery store, and cutting back on convenience foods is an obvious target, but how can we possibly assemble decent dinners without a convenience crutch? Here are three strategies that work for me: Strategic Substitution, Stretching and Simplifying.

Strategic Substitution
Strategic is the key word here. Where can significant price savings be had for little or no extra time? If you’re hankering for something like tamales or sushi or ravioli, making your own probably doesn’t make sense. But things like rice, beans, meatballs, fish sticks and chicken nuggets are all so easy to make, why should you pay someone else to make them?

Rice is perfect example of Strategic Substitution. The preparation time is identical: Mix water, rice and salt in a pan and put it on the stove to cook. The only difference is the cooking time. You can’t wait until 10 minutes before dinner to cook regular brown rice. Instead, get in the habit of making a pot of at the beginning of each week. Then it’s just a microwave cooking away from being ready. (In case you don’t use it up, just freeze it.)

But what if you don’t know how to cook rice except from a box? Or beans? Jump to these links:
How to Cook Rice
How to Cook Dried Beans

Cooking Outside the Box
Here are some more numbers to justify cooking outside of boxes:

Dried Beans: $1.00 of dried beans produces the same amount as $6.00 worth of canned beans. Think of the additional savings if those beans serve as a protein substitute for meat!

Breaded Fish Fillets: Gorton’s Crunchy Breaded Fish Sticks are $7.49. A 10-minute substitute, using the same kind of fish, costs $3.08, less than half the price of the prepared fish sticks.

An Inconvenient Truth
Cooking lower on the convenience chain not only saves money, it also results in meals built from real, straight-from-the-earth foods, without gratuitous additions for fat, salt, sugar, colorings, preservatives and flavors.

Better yet, those real foods taste a whole lot better than cheap, mass-produced factory-made foods. And the icing on the cake, it's good for the environment, too. Consider all the packaging that’s avoided, the dyes and inks that aren’t being used for packaging, and the energy that isn’t being devoted to shipping frozen foods around the country. Hooray!

Next time, I'll offer up even more great strategies for making dinner without convenience foods.

Author of Take Control of Your Kitchen, Mary Collette Rogers is a recovered commercial attorney who has found her true calling inspiring and empowering women to create good everyday meals. Her creative kitchen coaching makes it easy to prepare meals that nurture moms, connect families, build community and ultimately, create a healthy planet. Read more about creating a new kitchen culture at her blog: everydaygoodeating.wordpress.com and at her website: EverydayGoodEating.com.


FOOD FOR THOUGHT
Shower Gifts Made Easy
BabyShowersByMail is a great place to get the perfect baby shower gift. They have pre-selected gift packages that contain name brand diapers and wipes plus fabulous books, some treasured toys, and huggable teddy bears. Gift packages range from $20 to $200 so the gift giver only needs to determine how much to spend. The hottest selling shower gift is our monthly diaper delivery service. Gift givers can purchase diaper delivery service for one month, three months, a year, an endless supply of diapers, or any length of time in between. Different payment options are available to make the gift manageable for the giver. Diapers are shipped out, not on a set schedule, but when mom needs them. Diaper brands and sizes can be changed as needed. BabyShowersByMail also carries eco-friendly, chlorine free diaper choices for the earth conscience mom.


REEL LIFE WITH JANE
Movie and DVD reviews for you and your family

Journey to the Center of the Earth (3-D)

by Jane Louise Boursaw

Reel Rating: 3.5 out of 5 Reels
MPAA Rating: PG for intense adventure action and some scary moments
Released in Theaters: July 11, 2008
Genre: Family, Action-Adventure
Runtime: 92 minutes
Directed by: Eric Brevig
Cast: Brendan Fraser, Anita Briem, Josh Hutcherson

Sex/ Nudity: Mild flirting, two mild kisses.

Violence/Gore: The travelers are attacked by carnivorous plants, flying fish, and hungry dinosaurs. It's a little scary, but no blood or gore is shown.

Profanity: The word "schist" is used as a replacement for sh*t.

Which Kids Will Like It? Kids 8 and older who like classic adventure tales. Good time to encourage them to read the Jules Verne book.

Will Parents Like It? Yes, Trevor and his nephew care about each other, and bond during the adventure. It's all good, clean fun.

REVIEW: "Journey to the Center of the Earth" is a fun action flick based on the classic Jules Verne tale. It probably won't win any awards, because there are other movies with more action, better special effects, and just about everything else. But don't let that stop you from seeing it, because for a PG-rated family film - and 3-D, too - it's loads of fun.

Brendan Fraser plays Trevor Anderson, a geology professor who's in danger of being downsized out of his college department. When not teaching class, he's been continuing the work of his brother, Max, who disappeared several years earlier while studying volcanic tubes, i.e. express lanes into the center of the earth.

When Max's son, Sean (Josh Hutcherson) arrives for a 10-day visit (much to his chagrin), Trevor is ready to send him home after stumbling upon some data that might prove Max's theory. No way, says Sean. He's not getting dumped.

So the two embark on a journey to Iceland, where they meet up with an old scientist's daughter, Hannah Asgeirsson (Anita Briem), who doesn't believe any of this earth's core business, even though her dad was studying the same theories. But she's willing to guide them up the mountain for a fee. A few horrible missteps later, and the trio is sent hurtling into the earth's core, where they find all sorts of fantastical creatures, plants, oceans, and adventures.

This is the sort of movie where you have to just let go, and be willing to accept what you see, for the sake of movie fun. The world beneath the earth is a fantasy filled with wonder - tiny, electric-blue birds, mammoth mushrooms, flesh-eating fish, and several prehistoric creatures, not all of which are friendly.

The movie would have been good even without 3-D, but with it, a panoply of things jump off the screen at you, including a big glob of dinosaur mucus. But none of it is gross or violent enough to turn you off. It's rated PG, with just the right amount of action and, of course, a little romance thrown in.

Go see "Journey to the Center of the Earth," and take your family. There are a few scary parts, but it's fine for kids 8 and older.


Jane Louise Boursaw is an entertainment writer specializing in movies, TV and celebrities. Visit her online at FilmGecko.com, ReelLifeWithJane.com, and FilmGecko.com. E-mail Jane at jboursaw@charter.net.


FOOD FOR THOUGHT
Got a discipline problem?
Sharon Silver, internationally recognized "Mommie Mentor" and founder of ProActive Parenting has created Seminars On-Demand, showing parents step-by-step ways to respond not react, by implementing a balanced parenting approach that's supportive and firm, leaving everyone -- children, parents and the people around them -- healthier and happier. Parents listen at their convenience, day or night, on their iPod, computer or CD player. Drop by Proactive Parenting.net for details.


BRINGING UP GEEKS*
Rules for Bringing up Happily Uncool Kids

Pink is the New Black: When Parents Don't Parent

by Marybeth Hicks

Pink now is the wardrobe essential for an entire generation of tween and teen girls, so it didn't surprise me when a mom I know mentioned taking her daughters to the new Pink retail store at the mall.

What took me aback was when she said: "I absolutely hate the Pink store and I can't stand shopping there. Yet my two girls are always walking around with the word 'pink' across their rear ends. What can you do?"

What can you do?

Hmm. ... What can you do? What, oh what, can you do?

This is the pivotal parenting question for 21st-century moms and dads.

We ask ourselves that question when considering a host of topics, from Victoria's Secret styles to the decline of table manners, from the racy shows our children want to watch on TV to the hours they want to spend surfing the Internet.

We modern moms and dads always seem to be on the horns of a dilemma that pits our common sense about what's best for our children against our apparent inability to implement our own preferences.

Here's what I mean:
  • Surveys of parents by the Kaiser Family Foundation show that moms and dads believe today’s television content contributes to precocious sexual behavior, rude and course language and bad attitudes in children. A majority also think they should do a better job of supervising media consumption in their homes.

  • In surveys of parents, the Kaiser Family Foundation has found that moms and dads believe it’s best to limit the amount of time their children spend online and supervise the sites their children visit. But their studies have also found only a small percentage of children who use the net report that their parents have rules about it or know what sites they visit.

  • An Associated Press annual rudeness survey says the majority of Americans believe our society is getting ruder every year. Most people say they have experienced bad manners and inconsiderate behavior from children in public places. When asked who was to blame for this trend, the number one response was “parents not teaching good manners to children.”
That reminds me of the time, while talking about our kids' computer usage, a dad said to me, "I wish we had rules about the computer like you do." I stood there thinking, "Um ... dude ... you're the dad. You can make the rules."

That's the short answer to the parenting conundrum of our time: What can you do?

Lots of folks follow the conventional wisdom of "choose your battles." It's wise to conclude that shopping at a store you loathe - but your daughter loves - is a fight you can and should avoid. And they apply this wisdom to nearly every issue that comes along.

But choosing our battles seems to have created a generation of parents who simply avoid battles altogether. We can see what's best for children, but we don't have the will to implement our own good judgment.

Our children have no choice but to draw conclusions about our values when those values have no impact on our decisions. They see us pull out the credit card and pay for clothing at a store we claim to hate, dressing them in apparel we say is inappropriate, and they think, "Whatever."

Suppose the mom I know decided that a seemingly insignificant scuffle over "Pink-wear" actually does matter. Suppose she said "no."

Would it be easy to swim against the cultural tide that rushes toward you in a sea of pink on which is printed in pink ink the status symbol of an entire generation - the word "Pink?"

No. But nobody said parenting was easy.

If we find ourselves too often shrugging our shoulders and asking that rhetorical question, "What can you do?" then it's likely we're not choosing enough battles to win the war.

*Genuine, Enthusiastic, Empowered Kids

Marybeth Hicks' column "Then again." appears weekly in The Washington Times. A wife of 21 years and mother of four children, she uses her column to share her perspective on issues and experiences that shape families and the communities we share. Her book, "Bringing up Geeks - How to Raise Happily Uncool Kids" is available now from Penguin/Berkley. You can learn more about Marybeth and her column and buy her book at MarybethHicks.com.


THE BUZZ ON THE BIRDS AND BEES
How to talk comfortably with your kids about sexuality.

Contemplating My Empty Nest

by Melanie J. Davis, M.Ed.

Independence Day has come and gone, and I don’t mean July 4. I refer to a short trip my husband and I took recently to celebrate our 25th wedding anniversary. For three days we carved out our own schedule and dined at our choice of restaurants, unencumbered by the schedules and eating preferences of our 21-year-old daughter and her 16-year-old twin sisters.

I used to feel guilty about looking forward to the day my girls will have their own homes, but after talking to other parents, I know I’m not alone. Many parents are eager to have rooms uncluttered by the detritus of our children’s lives, the scattered belongings, dishes, errant socks and candy wrappers. We’re eager to make plans and, yes, make love, without worrying about whether anyone is within earshot.

I love my girls dearly. I treasure our conversations, laughs, and inside jokes. My heart breaks when they are sad and soars when they are proud of themselves. I may have given them life, but they have given me more joy and fulfillment that I ever thought possible. And yet, I look forward to helping them settle into their own apartments, leaving nothing behind but mementos and off-season clothes.

I also look forward to the day they base decisions on their own desires and interests rather than on what their father and I consider appropriate in our family home. I’m confident that they’ll make informed decisions because their father and I have been consistent in our messages about the importance of sexual expression and enjoyment, of equitable relationships and sexual responsibility. We’ve used humor, books, movies and television shows to kick-start communication about sex. And dinner table conversations. Endless dinner table conversations, our daughters would say.

We’ve also put in our time—and continue to put in our time—as moral compasses, ensuring that parties are chaperoned, curfews are met, whereabouts are reported and companions are vetted. I look forward to letting go of the reins, aware that while their decisions may differ from ours, they have the common sense and knowledge that will enable them to understand the ramifications of their actions.

I’m sure that on some days after they’re all on their own, I’ll wander through the house, missing their company, perhaps even missing their arguments. On those days, I’ll make a phone call or drop them an email, feeling a little blue if they’re not home to answer.

On the other hand, it’ll be nice to go to bed without locking the bedroom door. And to make out with my husband elsewhere in the house without feeling like we’re imposing on our daughters. These are the rarely discussed benefits of empty nests, and they can be significant.

My personal Independence Day is a few years off; in the meantime, I want to savor every moment our daughters are under our roof, under our guidance, under our protection, and within the span of our loving embrace.

Melanie J. Davis, M.Ed. is the founder of Honest Exchange LLC, a sexuality education and communication practice. Her engaging, interactive workshops and publications focus on sexual education and interpersonal communication for teens, adults, and healthcare professionals. For more information, visit HonestExchange.com.


READ ‘EM AND REAP

Books to help your child grow
Funny Pages: Poetry and Rhymes For Kids
by Mia Geiger

After my daughter learned to read, I couldn’t wait to buy her an Amelia Bedelia book. I imagined her laughing hysterically over Amelia’s mixed-up shenanigans. After watching her read a few chapters, though, I quickly realized you have to know what “draw the curtains” really means to think it’s funny that Amelia Bedelia took a piece of paper and sketched the window decor.

I’m learning that humor for young kids is at its best when it’s direct — how else to explain why first-graders love any joke that contains the word “burp?" A subtle, sly sense of humor is honed slowly over the years, by exposing kids to humorous situations and silly word-associations. Poems and rhyming texts pack messages tightly, fostering an appreciation for words and making stories come alive.

These books encourage laughter and a love of language.

Oops, by Alan Katz; drawings by Edward Koren
(Ages 7-10) Margaret K. McElderry Books
Silliness reigns supreme in these poems about a kid’s everyday life, ranging from eating soup to wearing underwear. From “Ice Scream:” “One scoop! More! Two scoops! More! Three scoops! More! Four sc...oops! Floor!”

My Dog May Be A Genuis, by Jack Prelutsky; illustrations by James Stevenson
(Ages 5-10) Greenwillow Books
Prelutsky entertains with 100-plus poems, with titles such as “I’m in a Muddy Puddle” and “I Never Sit on Scrambled Eggs.” From “A Fox Has Caught the Chickens:" “A fox has caught the chickens, but the chickens fixed the fox. That fox is skipping dinner, for they gave him chicken pox.” Also check out his how-to book, “Pizza, Pigs, and Poetry.”

Oodles of Animals, by Lois Ehlert
(Ages 3-7) Harcourt Children’s Books
Readers will smile at Ehlert's humorous rhymes that accurately portray animals. The “Cat” poem: “A cat is a purr wrapped up in fur.” The “Stingray” verse: “Stingray, stay away!” Colorful collaged artwork complements the text.

Who Ate All the Cookie Dough? by Karen Beaumont; illustrated by Eugene Yelchin
(Ages 2-5) Henry Holt & Co.
The lively, repetitive verse — to the beat of “Eeny Meeny Miney Moe” — will engage kids as they try to solve the mystery of the missing cookie-dough. The last page contains a cute lift-the-flap surprise revealing the culprit.

Zen Ties, by Jon J Muth
(Ages 4 and up ) Scholastic
Not a “funny” book, but this story, a companion to last year’s “Zen Shorts,” contains haikus spoken by a young panda named Koo. Koo is visiting his Uncle Stillwater for the summer, and makes new friends, all of whom learn a gentle lesson about compassion. Toward the end of the story, as Koo prepares to leave his uncle, he says, in haiku: “Summer fading
new friends’ faces
lighten the way home.”

Mia Geiger is a freelance writer and member of The National Book Critics Circle. Visit her at miageiger.com





PARENTING TOGETHER APART
Everything you need to know for parenting after separation and divorce

5 Ways to Prepare for Your Child's Summertime Visit to Your Ex

by Brette Sember

Many children spend large chunks of time with their non-custodial parent over the summer. Whether your child is going across town to spend a few weeks with your ex, traveling to another state for visitation, or is packing up to go away on a big trip with your ex, preparing for and adjusting to the absence can be very difficult.

Set Your Mind at Ease
When your child is preparing to go away, do some advance planning that will help you feel comfortable with the vacation or the trip. Find out where your child is going and get the contact information. Ask questions so you know what the plan is. If your child will be traveling, get the details of the itinerary. Make sure your ex understands your child's capabilities when it comes to swimming, hiking, or other activities. If your child is going to another state to stay with your ex, find out who will provide child care while your ex is at work.

Stay in Touch
If your child is in elementary school, this might be a good time to get him a cell phone. That way, you can reach him directly without having to go through your ex and you'll have the peace of mind of knowing you can call at any time. Stay in touch, but don't call several times a day. You have to let go a little and let your child and ex have time together without you involved. Find out if your child will have internet access. If so, set up an IM account so you can reach each other that way. If not, you could send your child with some stamps and stationery so he could send you a note or a drawing.

Pack Well
Help your child pack for the time away. Make sure all essentials are included, including prescription medications, glasses, retainers, rubber bands for braces, summer reading requirements, sunscreen, special stuffed animals, favorite toys, clothing appropriate for the weather, and personal care items. If your child will be traveling, don't assume your ex will think to pack children's pain reliever, dental floss, water shoes, or other important items. Talk with your ex about making sure your child follows her routine and takes her meds, brushes her teeth, wears sunscreen, and so on.

Prepare Your Child
Depending on the age of your child and whether he has been away from you before, this could be a difficult separation. Remind him he is going to be with the other parent who loves him and is so excited to be able to spend time with him. Tell him you'll miss him and he'll miss you, but you'll be together again very soon. Do not dwell on how hard the separation will be for you. That is not your child's burden to carry. Instead, give him permission to enjoy himself and have fun. Be happy he is about to have this experience.

Prepare Yourself
If you have not been away from your child for extended periods of time, the time apart in the summer can be difficult for you to adjust to. Think ahead about how you will use your time. This is a great chance to tackle some big projects around the house or at work. It's also a great time to do something for yourself, like a wine tasting class, audition for a play, or do some traveling of your own. You will miss your child, but you may find you enjoy the time to yourself as well.

Brette McWhorter Sember is a retired family attorney and mediator and nationally known expert about divorce and parenting after divorce. She is the author of "The Divorce Organizer & Planner" (McGraw-Hill), "How to Parent With Your Ex: Working Together for Your Child's Best Interest" (Sourcebooks) and "No-Fight Divorce: Spend Less Money, Save Time, and Avoid Conflict Using Mediation" (McGraw-Hill). Her web site is BretteSember.com.


FOOD FOR THOUGHT



LEAN GREEN FAMILY
How to Save Money by Living an Eco-Friendly Life

Can You Go Green with a Garbage Bag?

by Leah Ingram

Thursday is trash day. Despite the cliche, taking out the trash is neither my husband nor my children's job -- it's mine. Since I'm going out of town before trash day, I'm doing my usually night-before-trash-day run around the house, whereby I empty all of the trash cans and replace the bags with clean, empty ones. In places like the bathroom and bedrooms, I recycle (or rather reuse) leftover plastic grocery bags as garbage bags, but in the kitchen, I need the heavy-duty, real-thing -- your basic black garbage bag.

I must admit that every time I pull out a full trash bag from the kitchen trash can, I get a sinking feeling in my stomach, knowing that this bag and its contents are going to end up in a landfill where they're going to just sit there. At least when I dump stuff in the compost pile, I know that it's breaking down into soil. And the cans and bottles that I put in recycling, well, I know that they'll most likely be turned into something else. But trash? Yeah, it will probably outlive the cockroaches after a nuclear war.

Doomsday scenarios aside this is why I was so glad that I'd just had a box of the new Perf Go Green biodegradable garbage bags sent to me, which I can use to reline my kitchen trash can. Not only are these bags made from recycled plastic, but they are also coated with a secret formula that turns this recycled plastic into biodegradable plastic. As the press materials for these bags explain, "When discarded in soil and exposed to the presence of microorganisms, moisture and oxygen, Perf Go Green products biodegrade, decomposing into simple materials found in nature." Most plastic bags take about 100 years to break down; these bags are supposed to break down in 24 months in landfills.

I'm not so greenwashed by a free box of garbage bags to believe that they are the solution to the world's garbage problems. I mean, these bags need optimal landfill conditions to break down, and who is to say that those conditions will exist? However, they are a good start.

In the meantime if we all followed the three Rs of reduce, reuse and recycle a little more closely, we would all have a lot less trash to put out on garbage day. But since everyone's going to have some garbage to put out at some point, I know that in the future I'll have less of a sinking feeling in my stomach when I put the garbage out in one of these new bags. At least there's a chance that these bags will biodegrade in my lifetime, unlike traditional trash bags.

Most mothers teach their kids to cook and clean. Leah Ingram’s mother taught her to compost. These days she’s passing along this green message to her own daughters as they all try to live a green and frugal lifestyle as The Lean Green Family.



FOOD FOR THOUGHT
OutSmart the Summer Spike Did you know that kids’ TV viewing spikes by 150% in the summer? The Smart Television Alliance has announced a new campaign to OutSmart the Summer Spike. The campaign is a call to action for anyone with children in their lives—busy parents and caregivers, teachers, friends and neighbors—to use technology to control what television children watch, to make smart viewing choices, and to promote a balanced media diet. After all, if we’re in control of what’s on the screen, watching TV can bring educational time to a long summer outside of the classroom.n Get involved in this important effort: SmartTelevisionAlliance.org.


BOO-BOOS, GERMS & PAP SMEARS
Your Family's Health

Swimming and Baseball and Soccer, Oh My!:

Try These Tips to Keep Your Young Athletes Healthy and Safe This Summer

by Kathy Sena

It's summer, and my son, like millions of other kids, is busy swimming, playing baseball and doing anything else he can think of that involves sports. And with all the sports camps available these days, it's possible for kids to get a jump on the fall football and soccer season, too. Like many parents, I'm wondering: How do I keep my kid safe, healthy and (fingers crossed) injury-free?

According to Tony Breitbach, Ph.D., assistant professor and director of athletic training education at Saint Louis University, there are five things every parent can do:

  1. Make sure equipment fits properly. Kids grow fast, which means the gear that fit perfectly last year may be too small now. "Ill-fitting shoes can be an especially big problem," says Breitbach. "Last summer's baseball cleats will likely not be right for this summer." Protective equipment, in particular, must fit properly and be appropriate for the sport, he adds. "If it doesn't fit, it won't protect."

  2. Watch your child's diet. To stay healthy while playing sports, kids need to eat a proper and balanced diet - low in fat, with moderate amounts of lean protein and high in complex carbohydrates. Athletes need lots of the latter right before and after a game or workout. Staying well-hydrated during and after a big game is important, too. "People place way too much emphasis on energy and sports drinks, when good cool water will do just fine - and it's even preferable in most cases," says Breitbach.

  3. Keep your child well-rested - and not overbooked. The right amount of sleep and rest is critical to simply function day to day. This is particularly true for kids who play multiple sports - sometimes in the same day, Breitbach says.

  4. Help your child stay physically fit. In general, Breitbach says, the more fit someone is, the less likely they are to be injured playing sports. The best way to keep your kid in shape is to never let him or her get out of shape. Make sure they're active throughout the year, and don't rely on sports to keep your kid fit. Also, don't sign your child up for a sport just so he or she can lose weight. "They need to love the sport," Breitbach says. "The truth is, lots of sports aren't conducive to weight loss anyway. If your kid needs to lose weight, put him on a healthy diet and join a fitness center where there are personalized fitness programs."

  5. Take care of injuries right away. Listen to your kid's body, Breitbach says. Take scrapes, pains and aches seriously, and if your child is hurt, make sure the injury gets immediate medical attention. Scrapes need to be cleaned and covered to avoid potentially dangerous staph infections, he adds.
Finally, if your child is ill or has been injured, make sure that the play-or-no-play decision is made a medical professional. "They're really the ones who are qualified to make that call - a parent or youth coach isn't," Breitbach says.


HAVE KIDS, WILL TRAVEL
Ideas and Tips for the Ultimate Family Vacation

Where the Travel Deals Are

by Apryl Chapman Thomas

Here's a quick round-up of the travel deals that are available for your family this summer:

TradeWinds Island Grand Resort in St. Pete Beach, Florida, has a "Kids Just Wanna Have Fun" Package that is valid through September 30. This three-night package includes one dinner for two adults in Bermudas Steak & Seafood Restaurant, and two all-day kids all-inclusive activities passes per child. Everyone can also take part in the nightly activities as well.

Hotel Terra in Jackson Hole, Wyoming, is offering a number packages including the "Family Frontier Package" that is good through September 30. If your family likes to be active, this is perfect. Your stay is customized by your interest by choosing from one of the three rafting options: whitewater, trekker or trail rider.

Grand Traverse Resort and Spa offers a "1 Night Grand Family Escape", which includes a in-room movie or video game, 15 tokens for the Arcade, and ice cream for 4 from the Marketplace. Package is available through August 30.

The Tamarijn Aruba Family Package allows up to two children (18 and younger) to stay, play and eat free at the resort when sharing a room with two paying adults. The resort features a Children's Camp for ages five through 12, filled with various activities. For those traveling with tweens and teens, opt for the Mega Family Room that includes that all-important second separate room. This special is good through September 30.

Viva Wyndham Resorts is offering their "Kids Stay Free" promotion that is good through August 31. The applies to children 12 and under staying with one paying adult at any of Viva Wyndham's eight properties.

Even though they call it "Fab 5 for Fall", you can still make a summer vacation with the packages offered by SuperClubs. You must make reservations by June 30, and travel is good from August 15 - December 15. This particular package offers 50 percent of room rates and at some properties, kids can stay for $5.

Through September 1, Hyatt Resorts are offering their "Sunshine on Sale" package that includes a free night at one of their 19 participating resorts.

Be sure to check out Summer in Belize for deals and specials, such as free nights and upgrades, that are going on throughout the country.

Ontario has a number of family getaway packages suitable for all tastes and budgets.

Omni Hotels is featuring an American Express Family Package, good through August 31. Use your AMEX card and save 20 percent off the room rate. A two-night minimum is required. Kid receive an Omni Kids goodie bag as well.

Next Column: That's Edu-tainment! Education and Fun Vacations for the Whole Family

Apryl Chapman Thomas is a freelance writer in Watkinsville, GA, who enjoys traveling the open road; even with her husband and two young daughters, in tow. From battling bouts of car sickness at times (both hers and her children's) to mapping out the best places to potty when heading to DisneyWorld, Apryl is bringing her first-hand knowledge of family travel to share with you in hopes that not only will you not make the same mistakes, but to help you and your family plan a family getaway to remember in a good way. You can read her latest about traveling in the South on her blog, Southernbyways.com.


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ME TIME
Lifetime Networks is currently searching for the next-great-female filmmaker Potential contestants can visit MyLifetime.com to submit their video entries through July 8th.

The winner will receive the opportunity to have her short film shown on Lifetime Movie Networks, a cash prize of $5,000 as well as trips to networking events and festivals. Help us shatter Hollywood’s glass ceiling! If you would like additional information please let me know.


THE LEAN GREEN FAMILY
How to Save Money by Living an Eco-Friendly Life

Shopping Online is Supposed to Save Me Gas

by Leah Ingram

With gas as expensive as it is these days, shopping online has never looked better. I can stay in the comfort of my own home, select items I'm interested in, and pay a little bit extra (less than a gallon of gas, oftentimes) to have that item shipped to my home. This is especially attractive with websites that offer an affordable flat shipping rate, like Overstock.com and its $2.95 shipping.

So why on earth would some retailers look to "enhance" their online shopping experience by letting customers make selections via the website but then giving them the option of picking the item up at the store?

I noticed this option recently when perusing Wal-Mart's website for some exercise equipment. I didn't want to schlep to the mall or a sporting goods store to get what I was interested in. I figured I could find what I was looking for on the web, and not waste any gas in the process. Sure enough, I found the goods on Walmart.com but they were only available through Wal-Mart's Site to Store program, which is exactly what I'd described above: You make your purchase online and then have to go to the store to get it. Granted, you get free shipping if you choose this, but, again, why would I want to drive when I could stay home? Nordstrom is also debuting a similar program this fall, as this Internet Retailer publication explains.

I don't know. Maybe the retailers should get a clue when it comes to people and their cars. Haven't they seen the recent data that shows, for the first time since 1979, Americans are driving less? And the price of gas has only gone up since then. How do retailers think Americans are going to adapt when gas costs more than $4 a gallon nationwide? If they are anything like me, they will be driving a lot less, including to the stores. Instead, I'll be doing most of my shopping online and letting UPS bring me my goods instead.

Most mothers teach their kids to cook and clean. Leah Ingram’s mother taught her to compost. These days she’s passing along this green message to her own daughters as they all try to live a green and frugal lifestyle as The Lean Green Family. Visit her blog, The Lean Green Family.



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It’s no secret: moms have a love-hate relationship with their mobile phones. The darned things are supposed to help us stay in touch with our loved ones and better manage our busy lives. Instead, we often find ourselves frustrated when the hubby or kids don’t answer or even listen to their voice mails. Husbands often explain, “I was in a meeting” or “I didn’t have time.” Kids claim, “I was at a concert and couldn’t hear over the music.”

But help is here. SpinVox, a powerful mobile service already enjoying tremendous popularity overseas, is now rescuing moms all over the U.S. The service converts voice mail messages left on mobile phones into text. These text messages are then delivered via SMS or email—whatever fits your lifestyle.

This means hubbies can now read voice mails during meetings. Kids can get texts and quietly return them without getting bagged on by friends as the lame-o on a leash. And if a day of errands or screaming kids keeps us from being able to answer our cell, now we don’t have to worry about voice mails piling up, because we can read them, too! Even moms who haven’t learned how to text or just hate using fiddly cell phone keyboards can do so just by talking into their phones.

SpinVox is available directly from Spinvox.com and works with any carrier on any phone.


OFF MY NOODLE
Carb-free Humor for the Mom on the Go.

Camp Mom Wants You!

by Judy Gruen

Moms, are you tired of bundling your kids off for weeks of fun at sleepaway camp year after year, while you stay home?

This summer, why not send yourself to camp? That's right, a camp for moms who are too old for the roller coaster, but too young for the handicap-access van taking you to the aquarium. At Camp Mom, we promise you will not see the inside of a kitchen or the business side of a broom for two glorious weeks!

Nestled in the heart of the beautiful Sheraton Hotel in beautiful Carlsbad, California, we at Camp Mom know that sleeping bags and ticks are for kids; moms have earned lumbar support mattresses and 400-thread count sheets. Naturally, we are also within easy hiking distance to the nearby Carlsbad Premium Outlet Mall, where many of our thrilling activities will take place.

Here's a sneak peek at some of our plans!

Monday - Moms go fishing - for blow-out sales! After breakfast we strap on our pedometers for a heart-pumping walk to the Outlet Center and a scavenger hunt for a $50 certificate to the Anne Klein store. Tag teams of moms will hunt for the most dramatic clearance savings, and winners will be announced at the evening's low-glycemic dinner and entered into a contest to win a beauty makeover.

We'll march back to camp, doing bicep repetitions with our bags from the mall. The more you buy, the stronger those biceps will be! After lunch choose between floral arranging or a self-defense class - a great idea for any Mom caught between 25 7-year-olds and a piñata. Nap time from 4-6 (strictly enforced).

After dinner, join us for "Housework Avoidance Procedural Training for Beginners" followed by a screening of "Sense and Sensibility." S'mores at 10:30 in the Palm Beach Room. (You'll never guess they're low-fat!)

Tuesday - After breakfast we power walk to the Outlet Center and scavenger hunt for a $50 certificate to Crate & Barrel! Meet at the Haagen-Dazs at 11:00 for snack. Moms who find the most wild-looking summer tote will win complimentary massages after lunch by a Shiatsu-trained masseuse. In the evening, don't miss our Talent Show and Karaoke Bar, followed by a frozen yogurt bar and a screening of "While You Were Sleeping."

Wednesday - Wave to your kids from our air-conditioned, luxury-equipped bus as we zoom past Lego Land on our way to the Museum of Making Music. Didn't even know there was a Museum of Making Music in Carlsbad, did you? That's why you need to go to Camp Mom!

After lunch, your choice of Pedicure "Boot" Camp, or go-carting (for the mom who's still a kid at heart). After a lucscious low-carb pasta dinner, we'll swap childbirth ("ghost") stories around the campfire before we settle down and watch "My Big Fat Greek Wedding."

Thursday - After a long walk on the beach and picnic lunch, choose between primal scream therapy or a scrapbooking lesson. Before dinner, you can make your weekly call home - if you dare.

We have lots more surprises at Camp Mom, including Color War Breakout (will you end up on Team Mahogany Brown, or Honey Dip? Only your hairdresser will know for sure!); secrets on how to look five years younger when you feel 10 years older, how to keep your career on track when your kids have chronic ear infections, and Housework Avoidance Procedural Training (Advanced Level).

So don't end the summer feeling as wrung out as your hair color -- sign up today for Camp Mom. Hurry, the first 10 to enroll get a $25 gift certificate at the Lancome store. See you in Carlsbad!

Judy Gruen's latest book, "The Women's Daily Irony Supplement," has just earned a Gold Award for Humor in the ForeWord Magazine Book of the Year Awards, a Silver "IPPY" from Independent Publisher, and a Bronze Award from the Benjamin Franklin Book Awards. Read more of her work on JudyGruen.com, or through any online bookseller and write to her at judy@judygruen.com.


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Want someone else to pay your mortgage and gas? Visit Classmates.com and add or update a photo to your profile by logging in (or registering for free) through August 3, 2008, and you'll be entered to win in the Classmates.com Mortgage & Gas Giveaway. Ten members will win a $30,000 check to help pay their mortgage or housing for one year and 100 people will win $500 gas cards to help ease their pain at the pump.


READ ‘EM AND REAP
Books to help your child grow.

Animal House: Books on Pets

by Mia Geiger
My daughter wants a puppy. “One that doesn’t grow up.” In 6-year-old-speak, that means a dog that weighs less than 10 pounds.

I’ve always had big dogs. Big, furry mutts that tackled you when you walked in the door, slobbered you with wet kisses when you had a biscuit in your hand, and danced like they were stepping on hot coals whenever they heard the word “walk.”

But my girl wants a dog that’s not as intimidating. Hopefully she won’t choose a dog that fits in a purse or that’s easy to trip over. Purses are for lipstick, a wallet and wipes, not pooches. And I’m already tripping over Polly Pockets, Barbies and stuffed animals in my living room, so I need a dog I can readily see.

We’ll probably get a “bigger small dog,” but it depends whose puppy-dog eyes capture us at the shelter. Here are some books about pets to share with your children. But be warned, soon they might ask for a puppy. Or a cat. Or a mouse.

Please Don’t Tease Tootsie by Margaret Chamberlain
Dutton Children’s Books, Ages 3 and up
The story playfully tells children “Please don’t tease Tootsie, or provoke Poochie. Don’t madden Mutley, or disturb Dixie.” The second half of the colorful book shows respectful ways of treating animals.


Be Gentle with the Dog, Dear by Matthew J. Baek
Dial Books for Young Readers, Ages 3-5
Tag the dog loves his family, but avoids baby Elisa, who relentlessly pokes and prods him. After Elisa’s dad teaches her to be gentle with Tag, the two become friends — and Elisa turns her sights on the cat.


Not Norman by Kelly Bennett
Candlewick Press, Ages 4-8
A little boy gets a pet, but it’s not the one he wanted. It’s a goldfish, and goldfish, he believes, don’t do much and they don’t carry much cache with his classmates. “All Norman does is swim around and around and around and around and around and around ... .” A series of events, though, prove to him that his goldfish has his own way of being special.


What Pet to Get by Emma Dodd
Arthur A. Levine Books, Ages 3 and up
Jack wants a pet, but he’s not sure which kind. When his mom asks which pet to get, he suggests an elephant, a lion and other exotic creatures. Each time, his mom explains why those choices won’t work. “Well ...what about a giraffe?” “Too tall!” “...a rhino?” “Too wide!” “...a bison? “Too smelly!” “...a crocodile? Too snappy!”


Mia Geiger is a freelance writer and member of the National Book Critics Circle. Visit her at MiaGeiger.com.





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Wanna win a trip to Disney? Hanes also knows that summer means more family travel, which is why they are offering families everywhere in the US the chance to “Vacation in Comfort” during The Year of A Million Dreams at Walt Disney World® Resort. Buy specially marked packages of Hanes products and your family could win a Walt Disney World vacation. The contest runs from June through August 30, 2008 and seven winning families will be drawn on Sunday, September 21. You can visit Hanes.com for details.


BOO-BOOS, GERMS & PAP SMEARS
Your Family's Health

Are Your Gizmos Ruling Your Life?

Sometimes de-stressing means unplugging
by Kathy Sena


Today's hot electronic gadgets can help make your life run smoother. (Just ask my friend who got an iPhone from her husband for her birthday and didn't think she'd like it. Now she e-mails me - from the grocery-store checkout line - to tell me she can't imagine being without it.) But how do you know if your gizmo obsession is taking over your life and possibly hurting your relationships?

"We have become so accustomed to the luxuries of technology that we may be forgetting how to play, have personal connections and use coping skills in face-to-face interactions," says John O'Neill, LCSW, director of addictions services for The Menninger Clinic in Houston, Texas. "We can become overloaded by technology and suffer consequences in our relationships."

Can we really become addicted to technology? That's debatable. But O'Neill says he sees parallels with the overuse of technology to dependency on alcohol or drugs. The following warning signs may indicate that you need to chill out just a bit and give your gadgets a rest:
  • You'd rather text than talk face-to-face. You spend less time participating in personal activities, or limit your time with friends and family, to attend to your e-mail or return phone calls. You frequently miss appointments or are late because you got caught up on the Internet, checking e-mail or talking on your cell phone. You often use text messages, e-mail and voice mail when face-to-face interaction would be more appropriate.

  • You can't leave home without it. You can't take a vacation without bringing four different charging devices for all your gadgets. You can't seem to relax without constantly checking your e-mail and text messages or using your cell phone. "When your cell phone ear piece becomes a permanent part of your wardrobe, that's a problem," O'Neill says.

  • You miss important life moments. "Take the example of a father and son at a baseball game," O'Neill says. "A home-run ball heads toward the stands and the father, talking on the cell phone, makes a half-hearted attempt at catching the ball. He does not catch the ball and the son appears dejected. The father never stops his phone call. What could have been a significant bonding moment was derailed by the father's inability to disconnect from technology."

  • Even after experiencing consequences, you continue your behavior. Something as serious as getting in a car accident while talking on your cell phone doesn't change your behavior.
"Observing people on a daily basis, it is easy to recognize how lost we have become in our own worlds," O'Neill says. "Ultimately, being present in relationships with family and friends should include both body and mind."

Kathy Sena is an award-winning health and parenting writer and the mother of a 12-year-old son. Visit her website at Kathy Sena.com and check out her blog, Parent Talk Today.




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