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Comment on What Year is This? SAHMs Need Hubby’s Permission to Apply for Credit by Karen Lenfestey

Karen Lenfestey — Sat, 19 May 2012 12:52:33 +0000

Why is money the only way we value a person in this society? Raising children into responsible adults is a job, too.

Comment on SUDDENLY FRUGAL: Should You Tip in This Economy? by Betsy Cadel

Betsy Cadel — Fri, 18 May 2012 22:33:50 +0000

Tipping is essential and if you’ve ever read the book “Nickeled & Dimed” you’ll know why. I often this of this: a waitress at a diner probably does double the work of a server at a fancy restaurant where the average tab may come to $200. A tab at the diner may be more like $20. I’m not suggesting you leave the waitress a $40 tip, but is the “generous” 20% tip of $4 right? I tend to think about the fact that an extra dollar or two will help out the person who has just worked really hard to make my life a little easier.

And I agree, if you can’t afford to tip properly then maybe you shouldn’t be going out.

Comment on What Year is This? SAHMs Need Hubby’s Permission to Apply for Credit by Kathy

Kathy — Fri, 18 May 2012 20:01:24 +0000

When I got married 20 years ago, I kept two credit cards and a checking account in my name only. Ten years ago I left work to raise the kids and I kept my separate cards and bank account. I still needed that little piece of independence. If a bank or store wants to turn me down because I don’t bring home the paycheck, it’s their loss. My credit rating is better than my husband’s for heavens sake!In my house, I handle the majority of the day-to-day financial decisions, and my husband and I have a 50/50 say in major purchases. My husband realizes my position in the family is just as important as his, and I’m guessing that most households with a stay-at-home parent operate in pretty much the same way. If banks and stores actually thought about it they’d realize that the stay-at-home parent is most likely the one who handles the finances and makes the majority of everyday purchases. They should be trying to woo us! Seems pretty simple to me.

Comment on What Year is This? SAHMs Need Hubby’s Permission to Apply for Credit by Kathy

Kathy — Fri, 18 May 2012 19:28:08 +0000

When I got married 20 years ago, I kept two credit cards and a checking account in my name only. Ten years ago I left work to raise the kids and I kept my separate cards and bank account. I still needed that little piece of independence. If a bank or store wants to turn me down because I don’t bring home the paycheck, it’s their loss. My credit rating is better than my husband’s for heavens sake!In my house, I handle the majority of the day-to-day financial decisions, and my husband and I have a 50/50 say in major purchases. My husband realizes my position in the family is just as important than his, and I’m guessing that most households with a stay-at-home parent operate in pretty much the same way. If banks and stores actually stopped and thought about it they’d realize that the stay-at-home parent is most likely the one who handles the finances and makes the majority of everyday purchases. They should be trying to woo us! Seems pretty simple to me.

Comment on Just Once: Are You Dad Enough? by jensinger

jensinger — Wed, 16 May 2012 12:06:09 +0000

I’ve been reading your comments and others on the Internet, and I think the thing that slapped moms in the face was the phrase, “Are You Mom Enough?”

Nobody does that to fathers, which made me wonder why. I think it comes down to expectations, which for much of society is still to low for fathers, who have proven themselves quite capable of parenting (despite the “Daddy Day Care” movie), and way, way too high for mothers, who are tired of it all.

Thanks for tweeting and sharing this article. As they say on The Little Rascals, Pass it On. Thanks for sharing!

Comment on Just Once: Are You Dad Enough? by Sarita

Sarita — Wed, 16 May 2012 01:58:38 +0000

I appreciate the comments from dads on here- there are many many men who whole heatedly father their children every day, and th further away we all get from the silly image of an incompetent dad, the better.vcwe are all capable of doing most things relating to child care, and then we can recognize who has th magic touch for which things, whether it is moms way of putting the baby to sleep,cor dads way of humming and bouncing around, or playing or whatever. Which also makes me disagree with th comment above re: Dr. sears. He is a very connected, knowledgeable and hands on father of 6 who cooperates with his wife to raise them and support one another. Why can’t he offer parenting advice? He’s a parent. And I old venture to say a very good one who has ncouraged parents to trust their instinct and look beyond US culture’s limited and problematic approaches to ‘training’ children.
And I do think that the Time title was problematic, but I don’t think the issue is the mom who breastfeedding her 3 year old. The problem is our culture that belittles nursing beyond th minimum reconnemdation and has no concept of what much of the world does in terms of breastfeeding. So what if the child can pour himself a glass of milk? That’s not the same thing. Heck, a 1 year old can drink from. Cup, that doesn’t mean it is embarrassing and ridiculousco still nurse a 1 yr old. I don’t like the hyper focus on challenging and comparing parenting styles (french, tigers, whatever else!) but I hardly think the mom on the cover is really the issue.

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Tue, 15 May 2012 19:59:57 +0000

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