The average college student communicates with Mom or Dad 13.4 times per week, or nearly twice a day, reports WBUR.It’s no wonder, considering how cheap phone calls are nowadays and how easy texting makes communication.
When I was in college, we had to make long-distance calls from a landline phone and keep it short, dammit, because our roommate’s boyfriend is supposed to call! Are you done yet? Because, you see, we didn’t have voice mail or call waiting. (We did, however, have running water and electricity.)
In college, I talked to my parents maybe twice a week, which made me feel a little needy compared to my roommate’s phone call schedule with her father: Once for the entire school year.
My mother and I would talk about how my soccer team was doing and who I was dating. My father would pretty much say three things:
1. “How’s the weather?”
2. “Got enough money?”
3. “Here’s your mother.”
But today’s parents are so connected to their college-age kids that universities have created Offices of Parent Services, designed to field concerns lodged by parents that I am certain my own parents never even thought about.
WBUR reports, “Many students, however, won’t admit to having so-called helicopter parents and say their parents are simply concerned about what’s going on in their lives.”
Concerned enough to chat twice a day. But nowadays, parents can check the weather for any city and the kids’ bank statements on smart phones. Whatever are they talking about?
As my own kids near college age, I am reminding myself that I am raising them to leave me. I will keep in touch with them, but I won’t hover. I want them to look up from their phones and enjoy their college experiences, because those four years fly by fast. Especially when Mom and Dad aren’t monitoring your every move.