Last week, I needed to find an article I’d written for Parenting magazine some time ago, so I started to Google myself. I typed in Jen Singer, and soon, Google did its Auto Suggestion magic, offering up the most popular search terms that generally follow. And this is what I got:
For a second, I thought it was a list of the top stressors people encounter. Then I realized that “death,” “taxes” and “Facebook” weren’t on the list, so it couldn’t be that. And then it hit me: people are Googling my divorce.
So I did what anybody else would do in such a situation: I called friends in various parts of the country and asked them to Google my name. They all got similar results. Some fellow bloggers got:
That made me feel sorry for the Jen Singer who is a Realtor in Portland, because people must think she’s divorcing. Or divorcing Twitter. Or something.
But after a decade of blogging, authoring, writing and being interviewed, I know that most of the “Jen Singer” Google search results bring me up. While that’s the result of a lot of hard work, it brings with it some side effects, such as people Googling my divorce.
Normally, this would be — and should be — a private matter, but I am a blogger. In fact, I blogged from my bed on the oncology floor at New York Hospital, so no wonder people assume I’d blog about this, too. So it makes me wonder: If I don’t address my divorce, am I being, dare I say, inauthentic?
I searched for a handbook called: “How to Handle Your Divorce: A Guidebook for the Sort of Famous,” but I found nothing. So I decided to tackle the situation the only way I know how: By winging it. I’m simply going to follow my gut.
So if you’re Googling my divorce, or even if you aren’t, here’s what you need to know: I am getting a divorce. It’s a private matter for my family, yada, yada, yada, (except for the part where people bother to Google it), and there are other people involved, namely my husband and my children, and I don’t want to hurt them.
Know this: I am okay and my kids are okay. I can’t really say much else, except thanks for your concern. It means a lot to me.
Also: I have never been to Portland.