Nearly a decade ago, I created “Please Take My Children to Work Day,” a holiday for at-home moms. It was an excuse for at-home mothers to take a day off from their 24/7 responsibilities and put their feet up.
I created it because too many mothers who stay home with the kids felt they had no right to take a little time for themselves, even though they really could have used a couple of hours — maybe even an entire day — where they didn’t have to disarm a temper tantrum or sing about cows to just make it through the supermarket with kids in tow to buy a gallon of milk.
Some people were not amused.
Some of them chased me across the Internet, claiming that my holiday was somehow a slap in the face to moms who work outside (or inside) the home, even though I had been the latter for many years. One even called me a F–k Trophy. (I still don’t know what that means, but I admire the creativity.)
Over the years, about a dozen states officially declared the holiday with actual proclamations adorned with fancy gold stamps. CBS News even put me on TV to talk about it, though I hate looking at the segment because I had dark, curly post-chemo hair and extra prednisone weight and didn’t look like me. Also Harry Smith called me a dutiful, homeschooling mom, which was news to me.
I said it back then, and I’ll say it again:
“The title is tongue-in-cheek, people. Colorado declares it ‘Stay-at-Home Mother Day.’ That’s all it is. Eight or so hours off from the daily chores and responsibilities. Not a slap in the face to working moms any more than Father’s Day is a slap in the face to mothers, or Arbor Day disses low-lying vegetation.”
I created Please Take My Children to Work Day because at-home moms didn’t have a voice. And now, I’m going to retire it.
On June 25, 2012, MommaSaid will mark the 10th annual Please Take My Children to Work Day, and then promptly end the holiday. Why? Because it’s time to end the Mommy Wars. And the first step in ending the Mommy Wars is to recognize that we all work hard, and we all need a day off and we all could stand to spend an afternoon eating cake at the movies by ourselves, just like Tina Fey.
I’ve been a SAHM and a WAHM and soon, a divorced, working mom, and you know what? They’re all hard, and yet, sometimes they’re easy. Like kids, they change — sometimes hourly. Why fight over it?
So I will raise a glass to a decade of celebrating at-home moms and call it a day, (even while Yahoo calls it “Weird June holidays.”)
The Mommy War is over, people. Prepare for the cease fire.