February 16, 2012
Posted in Momversation | Tagged French parents, momversation, superior parents | 3 Responses
So well written, Diana!
Here’s her book on Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Battle-Hymn-Tiger-Daughter-extraordinary/dp/1468073494/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1330097269&sr=8-1
I’ve spent many an afternoon on French playgrounds in Paris and beyond and I’ve seen some pretty atrociously behaved enfants. I’ll never forget being in a row boat under a lovely bridge in the Loire valley with my very well-behaved American kids. Paradise except for the French 10-year-olds pelting us and the other boaters with rocks.
Listen up, American parents. We nail it. Why? Because one precept guides American parents above all that makes our country and our culture still the go-to paradigm for education, business entrepreneurship, the arts–and yes, parenting.
This one distinctly American value sets children raised the “American” way on the path to true success and happiness.
The value is this: American parents praise the rebel, the dreamer, and the outcast above all else. We’re not about chasing a stereotype to fit into the old ways; we’re about standing out and finding new ways. We’re not about conforming to society’s demands for good behavior. We’re about remaking society one amazing, breathtaking, shocking risk at a time.
We question everything.
So unlike the provincial French of Druckerman’s world or the “Chinese” of Chua’s world, we’re out to grab the best of every culture we can get our hands on.
That’s why Americans raise the kind of kids who can invent Facebook and Google and Apple.
That’s why we raise the kind of kids who can write Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother or Bringing Up Bebe. Yes, those books were written by fierce, questioning, re-inventing *American* moms. Heck, the Chinese edition of Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother is called Parenting by a Yale Law Professor: Raising Kids in America.
Even they know that we know the secret to raising amazing kids.
Americans take the best from every culture, avoiding destructive mistakes, because we’re not culture-bound. That’s why America is still the go-to country for mad creativity, fierce independence, and daring self-direction.
Want your kid to make it big? Go to France. (I know, hilarious, right?)
Want your child to have a happy, fulfilling life? See you in China! (Yeah, I didn’t think so.)
Face it, despite our kids not sitting still at restaurants or not scoring perfect on the goodie-goodie Test of the Day, America still rocks.
One awesome, hell-hollering, wild child at a time.
(Diana Holquist is the author of Battle Hymn of the Tiger Daughter, a memoir on how she raised her self-reliant, madly independent, fiercely creative daughter the American way.)
I must agree with Jan Druckerman, French children are far better behaved that most of the children I see in my neighborhood. When we were in Paris, the behavior of the children was striking in that they showed respect for the people around them. I think your observation of having to go to the bathroom to be rather extreme. A well-behaved child is not necessarily doing so because of fear. I also don’t see a problem with “old school” parenting. The “new school” isn’t working very well from my observations. Before you ask, yes, I have raised three children who are all adults, living on their own. They all went to college, never spent a day in jail, and are respectful people. So call me “old school,” I wouldn’t do it differently a second time around.
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