Years ago, a man e-mailed me to ask if I heard of any husbands paying their wives to be stay-at-home mothers. He felt that his wife should be paid for caring for the kids, yada, yada, yada, because as far as he was concerned, his wife’s work was worthy of pay.
It seems that someone else agrees, and she is neither a stay-at-home mom, nor a husband.
According to CNN, one of South Africa’s most influential businesswomen, Wendy Luhabe, believes that stay-at-home moms should be given 10% of their husbands’ earnings. She calls it a “mommy salary,” designed to ease the “resentful choice that women have to make.”
Where to start on the “mommy salary?” I’ll go with three main points:
- She just put the value of wives at 10% of their husbands.
- Why does she assume that women resent choosing to stay home?
- “Mommy?” No one over 9 year-old should be allowed to use that word.
Here’s what I told the man who wanted to start his own “Mommy Salary”: You’ll be double taxed. It’s not worth it.
Instead, at-home moms especially should make sure they have money in their own names, accounts that only they can access. They should keep up their resumes and stay in touch with former employers and co-workers. They should maintain their skills and, if possible, go back to school.
Most of all, they shouldn’t read the comments under the CNN section, which, predictably, blather on about “breeding” and “overpopulating,” not to mention, “welfare” and “getting paid to watch TV all day.”
Now that’s taxing. Eejits.