3 Ways To Be A Happier Mom…Today

I’m letting our own Meagan Francis commandeer MommaBlog today to celebrate the release of her new book, “The Happiest Mom.” Leave a comment by 8 pm ET today about what makes you happy for your chance to win a copy of her book.

The Happiest Mom by Meagan Francisby Meagan Francis

Lasting change doesn’t happen overnight. But if you’re having a hard time finding the joy in motherhood, there are small things you can do right now to brighten your outlook. Here are three easy ways you can be a happier mom—starting today.

1.    Try on a new attitude. You’ve heard the expression “Fake it ‘til you make it,” right? Well, it works for creating a positive outlook, too. Think of small ways you can inject some cheer, perspective, and ease into your daily life. Instead of groaning when the alarm goes off and hitting “snooze” eighteen times, think about how much you’re looking forward to that cup of coffee. Instead of snapping when the milk spills, force yourself to say “Whoops!” in a “no-big-deal” tone, grab a towel, and take care of it. Choose not to allow small challenges to build up and bring you down. It’ll become habit, and over time your whole life will look rosier.

2.    Call a friend. Loneliness and isolation make the challenges of a mom’s daily life even harder. Reaching out for support, a listening ear or just somebody to make your trip to the grocery store less lonely can make you happier right away. If your social circle seems kind of sparse these days, don’t hesitate—work on beefing it up today! Join a local club or organization that interests you. Bring the mom down the block some banana bread and an invitation to bring the kids over to play soon. Or just head to the playground and scout for new friends. Leave your smart phone or Kindle in your purse this time around, offer a friendly smile, a compliment, or a helping hand to another mom, and see where it takes you.

3.     Do something that really matters to youand skip something that doesn’t. The way I see it, being a happy mom is all about prioritizing. We can’t do everything, so it’s up to us to figure out the things that make us happiest and matter the most to us, and put those things first. Of course, making room for things that do matter to you will likely mean giving some things that don’t matter the axe. What could you do today that would give you a feeling of genuine accomplishment, joy, satisfaction or excitement? What could you cross off the “to-do” list to make room for it?

What makes you happy? Leave a (clean) comment for your chance to win a copy of Meagan’s new book.

Meagan Francis As a mom of five and blogger, author and writer, Meagan Francis spends the bulk of her time trying to balance kissing boo-boos with meeting deadlines (sometimes doing both simultaneously). But while life with kids is often chaotic and frustrating, Meagan believes a mother’s life can be rewarding and fun—and that all moms deserve a little more happiness. Her new book The Happiest Mom: Ten Secrets To Enjoying Motherhood, has been published in partnership with Parenting magazine.


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No responses to “3 Ways To Be A Happier Mom…Today”

  1. Karina

    Though it is late for the entry. What makes me happy is seeing my little girl smile as soon as she sees me and hears me saying “buenos dias mi amor” to her right before we have a good time changing her and getting her ready for her morning feeding. :)

  2. Amber

    Damn! I wrote too much and was late. Typical :)

  3. Amber

    It will make me happy if I get this comment in on time. It’s been open in my browser for hours while I have been distracted by other things!

    Book looks great, and good tips.

  4. Debbie

    Seeing the smile on my son’s face when I come to pick him up from school and how happy he is to see me. And also how willing he is to forgive me after I’ve yelled at him. Oh and getting some alone time to recharge makes me really happy, too.

  5. Elaine

    I’m with Victoria – really needed to read this today. What makes me happy? Walks down by the river with the boys, meeting new neighbours and friends, when daddy comes home… my kids singing Raffi songs to Mr. Sun, and then singing Robin in the Rain because they know it’s my favourite. Thanks!

  6. Kerry

    I love when my 3yo daughter comes up to me randomly and will rub her head against me like a cat while saying “Lovie, lovie, lovie Mommy.” And continues to do it until I huge her back repeating the lovies.

    I also love picking up my 8 yo son from school daily, and watching him and his sister run to each other (Hes in school full day, shes not) for a big hug like they havent seen each other in years, as opposed to 6 hours. And then I get the big hug too.

    And I love the rare chances I get to see my friends since they all live at least 45 minutes away, and in some cases 8 hours. Those few times a year we get together (about 5) can be a great reminder that I am not as alone as it feels.

    Thank you for the reminder that in the middle of our sometimes monotonus days of things that will only need done again tommorrow that there is happiness there too and we should never overlook it. .

  7. S

    I was feeling isolated one day, in the get food for baby, nap for baby schedule. When I realized – she is such a lovely baby that I can hang out with. It cheered me up right away.

  8. Heidi

    The best thing I ever did was sign my son up for preschool five days a week. Aside from the obvious educational and social advantages of such a program, those two hours allow me to focus on me when I want/ need to and it has opened up a whole new world for him. Although it is somewhat a financial sacrifice, it gives us a break from each other that makes the rest of our days much more meaningful and focused on each other. My favorite part of the day is when I pick my son up from preschool. He bursts out of the classroom with a huge smile, exclaiming “Mama!” and running in no particular direction until he actually sees me. LOL. I am often my happiest at that moment. But not always.:)

  9. Victoria

    Oh, and what makes me happy, is everytime my children tell me they love me and give me kisses. How loving and forgiving they are even when Mama’s grouchy… unconditional love’s the best!!

  10. Kate

    A clean kitchen counter makes me happy. It doesn’t happen very often, but when I do actualy tackle the clutter and clear off all the cups, school flyers, magazines I’ll never read…I breathe a deep, contented sigh.

  11. Victoria

    I really needed to hear these words and also the other mama’s comments, Thanks Ladies!

  12. Christine Wagner

    I loved #1! Very appropriate for today. While setting the oven on “self clean”, I managed to set it on fire. Again. Yes, I have a long and colorful history of doing this :) Anyhow, I started to rant and rave about stinking the house up again, and grousing about opening the windows when it was too cold outside to get the stench of flaming grease out of the house when I realized–“hey, this is the perfect excuse to go try out that japanese steakhouse down the way that the kids want to go to!” So, off we go! For an hour today, any more flames I see will be from the sesame oil on my fried rice.

  13. Kimberly Braaten

    There are alot of things that make me happy, but one that tops the list is when I lay my daughter into bed and I tell her I love her, she whispers back, “I love you too Mommy.”

  14. Andrea Penny

    When my little guy says to me: “hug kiss”. Nothing makes me happier!

  15. Karen Greenberg

    What makes me happy is doing things that I enjoy. That sounds simple enough, but so many times I get caught up in what I “should” be doing and forget to take the time to enjoy myself. Now, every day I get up at least an hour before the rest of the family. I use that time to play around on the computer and look at Facebook, blogs, etc. that I don’t feel I need to explain to anyone else. Holding onto a piece of me to not share with anyone else makes me feel like a whole person instead of being wife, mother, teacher, and all the other hats I wear.

  16. Christine M.

    What makes me happy is when I remember to stop, and look at my children from an outsider’s perspective and really appreciate every age and phase they are going through. Of course, some are better than others, but to appreciate them and this short time they are young is to really gain perspective on what’s truly important in this life.

  17. Rebekah

    I love nights out with a friend or some me time at Yoga…but what really makes me happy to share in the things that make my kids happy. My 11 year old son loves basketball, whether watching or playing and luckily so do I – it really brings our family together and we all have fun

  18. The Mommy

    Making my kids belly-laugh makes me happy. Flirting with my husband makes me happy. Having my husband flirt with ME makes me even happier. ;) Pulling on my skinny-jeans without having to shimmy them up makes me happy. Digging in the dirt makes me happy. Taking pictures makes me happy. This is fun! I think I’ll keep doing this!

  19. Nicole Ebbesen Rowan

    Reading blogs makes me happy! Along with a million other little things that happen every day that become awesome the moment I recognize them (first sniff of coffee brewing, perfect shower temperature, the soft curls on my son’s sweet head, my 5 yr old waking at 6 bursting to tell me about the new centers at kindergarten… I could go on!).

  20. Peggy

    Long walks in the woods or at a local farm with my 3 year old daughter make me happy. Also knowing that I have a change of clothes in the car keeps me from worrying that she’s getting too wet or dirty and that makes us both happy! :-)

  21. Michele Bartlett

    Sounds like a book I should read!!

  22. Peggy

    This is a wonderful blog.
    Things that make me happy:
    -long walks with my 5 year old where we find treasures and talk about stuff
    -my daughter’s giggle when i nibble her knees
    -playing in the garden with the kids
    -making art and writing
    -crafting with friends
    -sitting in the canoe with the sun shining
    -a nice glass of wine at the end of a long day

  23. Kirsten B

    For me, the key to happy mommy-hood has always been to letting go of expectations- particularly others expectations for what a good mom and happy family should look like. I focus on doing what works for us- from sleeping to eating to discipline to social activities- you name it. If I am in tune with my family and myself instead of trying to make other people happy, we get through our days with a lot less drama and a lot more time for each other. I recently found Meagan through blogs and Twitter, and have appreciated the fabulous approach she has to taking care of ourselves and our families. I’d love to read this book, too! Thanks.

  24. Jenette Scott

    I LOVE these ideas! This gives me something to work on to take better care of myself and my attitude as a journey through my motherhood career! Thank you!

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